Occupation: Youth Minister, First Evangelical Free Church
Spouse: Martha Mullen Occupation: Retired teacher
Years Married: 34 Children: 2
Martha is enjoying retirement-being able to do pretty much what she wants.
Our two sons, Brett and Colin, are finished with college and graduate
school. Brett is not married and is a statistician with Household Finance
in the Chicago area. Colin is married and is an engineer with Motorola
in Austin, TX.
Martha and I have lived in Durham, NC while I was in graduate school;
Lanai City, HI where we both taught at Lanai High and Elementary School;
Abu Dhabi, United Arab Emirates where I was principal and Martha was a
teacher in the Phillips Pet. Co. Dependents' School; Chicago, where I
was in Graduate school again; Oklahoma City where I was Principal at Heritage
Hall School's Upper Division; Rosemount, MN where I was an assistant principal
at Rosemount High School; Caracas, Venezuela where I was Principal of Escuela Campo Alegre; Ft. Worth, TX where I was again in graduate school;
Burnsville, MN where I was Associate Pastor at Berean Baptist Church;
San Diego where I was Associate Pastor at College Avenue Baptist church;
and now in Maplewood, MN where I am Associate Pastor at First Evangelical
Brett and Colin lived in Minnesota for all but four of their "growing
It appears we have been very successful as parents, but we have been lousy
at raising dogs. Our current pooch, a 7 pound Pomeranian tyrant named
Sinbad, is typical of our efforts-much loved, bull headed and spoiled.
As Associate Pastor, I focus on children's and family ministries. I also
supervise the pastoral staff. On the side, I serve as an adjunct professor
at Bethel Seminary, and I just completed a book, Character and Values:
The Four Foundational Values that Result in Good Character.
(taken from the web page)
Ian MacAlpine, the Founder and President of Character and Values, was
born in Pearl River, New York and grew up in Stillwater, Oklahoma. He
earned an undergraduate degree from Oklahoma State University and graduate
degrees from Duke University and Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary.
In addition, he studied three years at the University of Chicago on a
Married in 1967, he and his wife, Martha, have lived in Minnesota sixteen
years and have two adult sons, one of whom is married. Beginning in 1965,
Ian was a teacher and principal in secular schools on four continents
at the elementary, junior high, and senior high school levels. Ordained
by the Baptist General Conference, he has been a pastor to children and
families since 1983, and he has served four years as an adjunct professor
at Bethel Seminary, San Diego.
I had a great childhood! Oh, I didn't like girls until 3rd grade, and
after that I was scared of them. Sometimes I felt friendless, even though
I had lots of satisfying friendships. Once, Donnie Looper beat me up out
behind the trash bins at Eugene Field Elementary School. I saw and participated
in lots of conflicts at home. Sometimes I was a snot. But I had a great
childhood - and adolescence. I wouldn't trade them for anyone else's.
I didn't realize it at the time, but Mrs. Johnson, my high school chemistry
teacher, put her finger on the source of my happiness one day as she corrected
me for an atrocious behavior. She shook that index finger up into my face
and said, "Ian, that's not good enough. You're different. You've
I didn't know what character was, and neither did I pay much attention
to her words. However, by the time I was in college I recognized that
some people just seemed happier and more satisfied, and these people appeared
to live according to some pretty fixed values.
But what were these values? Commitment was the first one I identified,
and I continued seeking the "values for good living" for the
next twenty-eight years. In the meantime, my wife and I met, married,
and raised two sons. Also, I served as a teacher and principal in secular
schools on four continents and, since 1983, as a pastor to families and
Finally, in 1988 I had determined that there are thirty consensus values
for good living and that four of them are the foundation from which the
other twenty-six are built. I subsequently spent six years defining terms
and refining the model, completing an article that was published by the
National Association of Secondary School Principals in 1994.
To derive the four foundational values, I made extensive use of real life
scenarios, and you will find many of them in this book. All of them are
taken from real situations I have read about or personally encountered.
Since 1994, I have shared the "Four Foundations of Good Character"
with thousands of people - children, youths, parents, public school teachers,
Sunday school teachers, pastors, seminary students at Bethel Seminary,
San Diego, where I served as an adjunct professor, and even with editors
at publishing houses. Many, including some editors, encouraged me to self-publish
the construct using the Internet.
I hope you find the four Foundational Values helpful, whether you are
a parent, teacher, manager, CEO, or temp worker. Additional copies of
Character and Values: Four Foundational Values that Result in Good Character
are available on the Internet at www.characterandvalues.org for $8.00
including shipping, handling, and any tax. In addition, you can download
Character and Values free at this website.
If you have questions or comments about applying the four foundational
values to everyday situations, you are invited to visit the free chat
room at the website. You may gain insight from other participants or from
the chat room monitor.
Blessings on you as you seek to understand and communicate good character.
I hope the four foundational traits model helps you in this quest.
Married Name: Thrower
Occupation: Retired Secretary, Pacific Gas & Electric
Spouse: W.C. "Rip" Thrower, Retired, Geologist, Phillips Petroleum
Married: 21 years Children: 8 Grandchildren: 11
Our family: Dennis Thrower is a golf pro in Alabama. Glen works for United
Airlines in Houston. Scott works in Dallas. Daughter Shelley lives in
Austin. John January works for an engineering company in Houston and lives
in Rosenburg. Mark January lives in New York City. Daughter April lives
four miles away here on Lake Livingston. She works at home for "1-800-WEDDING".
I am a retired after being a secretary in oil and gas business for 31
years. I retired almost 3 years ago. I'm hand bell choir director at our
church, on the cemetery committee and belong to Methodist women and sing
in the church choir. I help my youngest daughter, April, with her four
young children. One of our sons works for United Airlines in Houston and
we get to fly free. So we plan to see parts of the United States during
the summer. We are raising one granddaughter, as my oldest daughter was
killed in a car wreck nine years ago. I'm busier since I retired, even
though our town only has as population of 535.
Occupation: Production Control Analyst
Employer: Visteon Automotive Systems
- Tulsa Glass Plant
Spouse: Debbie Employer: Gene Larew Occupation: Sales
Years married: 29 # of Children: 2
# of Grandchildren: 0
Debbie and I have two sons, Jason is 28 and single. He just recently accepted
the job as Assistant Sports Information Director for the Miami Hurricanes
in Coral Gables, Fla. Jarod is 25 and just recently married and works
on airplanes for American Airlines in Tulsa. I have worked at the Tulsa
Glass Plant since it opened in 1973 and my current job is scheduling and
procurement of the raw materials for production. Debbie and I have been
building a new home the past two years on our property in Verdigris and
are trying to remember what we used to do prior to building. We still
have our place on Lake Tenkiller and enjoy fishing and boating in our
leisure. We just recently went on a cruise to Alaska and hope we can continue
to do more traveling in the future.
William J. Megenity
I graduated from Central High School in Oklahoma City in 1961, but I
transferred there from Stillwater during my Senior year and I went my
Junior year to Stillwater.High school. I attended college at Illinois Institute
of Technology, Chicago; University of Oklahoma and Central State University;
I have spent my career in computer programming and analysis with
background in most of the languages and hardware that have come and gone.
I have been in the Kansas City area since 1989. Before that I was in Loveland,
CO; Chanute, Kansas; Frederick & Binger, Okla.; Wichita, Kansas; Bethany, Okla.
Occupation: Physician, Professor,
OU College of Medicine
Spouse: Mary Ann Occupation: Physician,
Professor, OU College of Medicine
Married: 32 years Children: 2
My wife of 32 years, Mary Anne, and I continue to be Professors in the
OU College of Medicine. She is a pediatrician subspecializing in neonatology
and I am an internist specializing in lung disease and critical care medicine.
Administratively, I am Chief of Staff of the VA Medical Center and Associate
Dean for Veterans Affairs.
One of the more significant occurrences to me since our last reunion is
that four years ago, I was elected President of an international specialty
organization, the American College of Chest Physicians. This has afforded
me many opportunities to be involved in health issues on a national and
international level. I was a member of the Congressional Advisory Committee
on Tobacco and Health chaired by the former Surgeon-General, Dr. C. Everett
Koop, and the former FDA Commissioner, Dr. David Kessler. I also testified
before Congress on the proposed tobacco settlement and met with Secretary
Donna Shalala in the White House. I have also been involved in some international
activities with the World Health Organization. During my presidency, I
also started an award, called the Governors' Community Service Award,
one of the first of its kind among medical specialty societies. Locally,
I am Chair of the Tobacco Free Oklahoma Coalition and have recently been
named to and elected Chair of the Board of Trustees of the Tobacco Settlement
Trust Fund for Oklahoma. I continue to be involved in hospice through
the Hospice Foundation of Oklahoma, for which I was the first Chair. I
am also actively involved in community health activities as Chair of the
Community Health Committee of the Oklahoma County Medical Society.
During the time I was President of the ACCP, Mary Anne was the first female
President of the Oklahoma State Medical Association. She has also been
actively involved in tobacco control efforts among many other activities.
She was recently elected to the Council on Scientific Affairs of the AMA.
We have two wonderful children. Sara lives in Los Angeles and works for
Showtime as the Coordinator for New Media, i.e. Web-based entertainment.
Matthew lives in Switzerland, rides his bicycle a lot and is looking for
a steady job. We try to get together with them as much as possible and
we all actually enjoy being together as a family.
Married Name: Coburn Ely
Spouse: deceased (2)
Married: 23 years & 9 years Children: 0
I have been married twice and both my husbands are deceased. I had no
children by either husband. I dressed hair from 1966 April - 1996 Oct.
I loved my job. After and during that I met my husband in 1990 who was
a quadriplegic. I started taking care of him and fell in love with him.
He passed in 1998.
I am care giving still. There isn't much time for hobbies. Both my last
caregiver jobs are 7/24's with a tiny amount of time off. so when you
get that, you do errands, pay bills and church.
Occupation: teacher, Cushing Public Schools
Children: 3 Grandchildren: 3
I have a son and his family in San Antonio, a daughter with a little girl
in Stillwater, and a second son in Nashville. My grandchildren include
two grandsons in San Antonio and one granddaughter in Stillwater. I am
After 21 years as an Air Force officer, I entered teaching. Initially,
I administered a junior ROTC program in Ohio. After earning a second masters
degree at OSU, I started my present position with Cushing Public Schools
as a special education teacher.
My main hobbies are fishing and computers. For years I have been active
in church work and the Knights of Columbus. I also assist annually with
the Cushing Special Olympics kids.
Occupation: Self-Employed-OK Rebuilders Retired: Anchor Swan Corp.
Spouse: Kaye Occupation: Buyer/Clerk, Ace Hardware
Years married: 36 # of Children: 2
Kaye and I have been married 36 years and have 2 children. Lori is 34,
married and has my only grandchildren. Brandi is 10 years old and loves
Grampa, basketball and 3-wheelers. Destiny is 6 years old and loves Grandma,
boys and bicycles. Our son Shawn is 32, single and owns a construction
company. He is primarily in home building, but specializes in cabinets
I own and operate an alternator, starter, generator rebuild shop in Stillwater.
We specialize in heavy duty, agriculture and industrial units. My business
was started in 1984 after a 15 year tenure with Anchor Swan Corp as manufacturing
manager. We also own a farm Southeast of Stillwater and run a cow/calf
operation, which has become a full-time "hobby".
Kaye also is involved with wood- and sewing-type crafts and makes me do
the wood cut out part. With that said I still find time to tease and mess
with our grand kids.
R. (Mac) Messenger
Occupation: Financial Structurer & Trader Employer: Cargill International,
Spouse: Gail Messenger Occupation: Homemaker/mother
Years married to me: 6 Children: 7 between the two of us
About the Family: Gail, my wife and the light of my life, had to leave
the University of California at Irvine where she was a year away from
a Phd. in Health Psychology, when we moved to England in 1998. Since moving
to Switzerland in 1999 she has been hard at work studying French. Once
she passes the official language test she intends to look for a job. In
the meantime she is keeping me spoiled and very happy. My oldest daughter,
Joy, 27, graduated from University of California, Santa Barbara and is
now a fund raiser for the Muscular Dystrophy Association in Los Angeles.
Gail's oldest daughter, Rachel, also 27, is a graduate of Boston College
and Thunderbird, The American Graduate School of International Management
(where I also graduated) and is now a project manager for West Teleservices
in Omaha, Nebraska. Thaddeus, 24, Gail's oldest son, is a graduate of
Stanford and is currently working for SkyGo, Inc. (a "dot-com"-type
company) in Redwood City, California. Nellie, my second daughter, 21,
is working for Quantas Airlines in Tucson as a telephone reservation agent.
Elena, my youngest daughter, 20, is a sophomore at Arizona State University,
after a year playing basketball at Arizona Western. Rebekah, also 20,
Gail's second daughter has finished her sophomore year at the University
of California, Berkeley with a double major in Pre Med and History and
will be spending her Junior Year abroad at the Sorbonne in Paris. Adam,
18, Gail's youngest son will be a Senior at the International School of
Geneva and has traded in a passion for water polo (although he still plays)
for a passion for road biking - 5,000 kilometers (more than 3,000 miles)
in the last eight months.
About my Job, Hobbies, and Interests: I am currently, and have been since
I joined Cargill in 1997 after 25 years in banking, working for the Trade
& Structured Finance group. My specific responsibilities deal with
assisting the Cargill European Business Units finance their suppliers
as well as their buyers in a cost effective and balance sheet friendly
way. In other words, the Cargill Business Units are to make money trading
the commodities and TSF is to make money trading the money Cargill uses
to finance their commodity purchases and sales.
My primary hobby is riding my mountain bike as well as riding with Gail
on our tandem mountain bike. Our longest trip so far was a 115 mile day
trip around Lake Geneva in August last year. We have also ridden up the
Saleve, the local "mountain" that takes us up some 900 meters
(about 2,800 feet) from our home where we start. In addition, we enjoy
hiking in the Alps as well as the Jura mountains which are close by. Gail
is also training to run marathons again after a long lay off. She has
put her name into the lottery for the New York Marathon and hopes to run
it in November this year. We both hope to run the London (or Paris) Marathon
Married Name: Lease
Occupation: Community Volunteer
Spouse: Gil Lease Occupation: Semi-retired
Married: 32 years Children: 1
Grandchildren: 1 (on the way)
My husband Gil and I will celebrate our 32nd wedding anniversary in May
and are expecting our first grandchild in September. Our daughter Amber
is 26 and has been married four years to Captain Chris Stanford, a West
Point graduate. They have been stationed in Bamberg, Germany for three
years and will be there until their five-year commitment is up in May
2002. Amber substitute teaches at the base high school. They spend all
their leisure time traveling around Europe.
Gil & I have lived in McKinney, Texas for 12 years in a master-planned
community north of Dallas. I enjoy my work as a board member of McKinney
Education Foundation where we secure college scholarships for graduating
seniors. Gil enjoys playing golf and we love taking long walks thru the
Most of all, we have had the opportunity to travel the last several years
and spend time with our daughter and son-in-law seeing all the exciting
cities of Europe. We will be going back to Germany in September for the
birth of our first grandchild.
Occupation: Marketing, C & R Manufact., Ind. Contractor
I have two sons. One is married. Both live in Houston, Texas.
I am an independent contractor doing marketing and consulting concerning
Married Name: White
Spouse: Joe W. White Occupation: Retired, 3M executive
Married: 38 years Children: 2
Joe retired from 3 M Corporation in December, 1998 and before that year
ended we were out of Minnesota and moved into a new home in Tucson, AZ.
Haven't missed a day of Minnesota weather!
Our daughter, Karyn, her husband Michael Hansen and our two grandchildren,
Abigail (4) and Jonathan (1) live in Columbus, Ohio. He teaches high school
math and she works for the public library system. Daughter, Leah, lives
in Waterloo, Iowa and is associate professor of speech/communication and
director of forensics at the University of North Iowa. Her husband, Wade
Davis, is completing his dissertation for PhD in speech/communication
and is also in his first year of law school at Iowa University in Iowa
We are active in church and helped build a Habitat for Humanity house
last year. We are finding time to make many new relationships in our chosen
retirement community. I still sew, paint some, work on photo scrap books,
love to cook and entertain. We get lots of company in the winter months.
I'm reading a lot and expanding my scope of knowledge in lots of areas.
Still looking for how to fill the "second half of life".
Occupation: Professor of Pathology, Adjunct Professor of Anatomy/Immunology
& Physiology/Psychology, University of Manitoba
Married Name: Butcher
Spouse: Duane Butcher Occupation: Retired Diplomat
Married: 38 years Children: 2 Grandchildren: 2
My husband is getting his teaching certificate in hopes of coaching high
school football. My older son, Duane, Jr. married an Azerbaijani girl
and is presently serving as the Administrative Officer at the American
Embassy in Bucharest, Romania. My younger son, Christopher and his wife
own a computer-related business in Arlington, Va. Christopher also teaches
computer classes at George Mason University.
I have been the president of the local League of Women Voters of Mesa
County. It is a busy and worthwhile endeavor. By the time you read this,
I will have retired from that position and plan to travel, act as a grandma
and refurbish my house. I have become quite enamored of China and have
several trips planned there in the future.
Gordon L. Nelson, Jr.
I'm doing fine here in Ireland. The work is very interesting.
work for an engineering services company that specializes in computational simulation.
I can get low air fares to places like Spain, Greece, and Switzerland, and
I keep busy on the weekends exploring the island. Not a bad life.
I am enclosing a short summary of what I have been up to for the past
40 years. Do you know what the surprising thing was? I found out it was not
too hard to summarize 40 years in two paragraphs. I am not sure what to make
of that. Either I have lead a thoroughly unremarkable life, or I am overlooking
some important stuff.
These days I am working for a small company in Dublin that does computer
simulations for a variety of processes, such as the vapor deposition of metal coatings onto turbine blades; computational stress analysis and
crash simulations for the automotive industry, and the analysis of stability
for satellites launched by the European Space Agency. After completing my
education (BS, MS in physics from OSU, and MS in aeronautical engineering from the University of Washington), I went to work for Boeing in Seattle,
helping to design the inlets for their aircraft engines. This work stimulated my interest in high speed flows, so I took a job in 1980 at
a company called MSE in Butte, Montana. They were doing testing on a power
generation process called MHD. They were also located in the heart of
the Rocky Mountains, which meant the skiing was very good and not very expensive.
While in Montana I developed a keen desire to become a good skier, and
I went skiing nearly every winter weekend for several years. These days
I think the equipment seems to get better every year, and it almost compensates for the aging process, so my skiing ability has reached a
kind of stable plateau, somewhat shy of expert.
I later taught
engineering and math courses to undergraduate engineering students
at Arizona State University, and here I am in Dublin, 40 years out of SHS, maybe better
educated and certainly older than I was on graduation day, but probably
not much wiser. I still enjoy hiking and traveling, and Ireland has much to
offer on both counts. I am enjoying the proximity to Britain and the rest
of Europe, and it is nice to go traveling on long weekends. No regrets, I
would do it all the same way if I were to do it again.
Married Name: Going
Spouse: Gary Going ('59) -Retired
Married: 36 years Children: 2 Grandchildren: 1
Gary and I have two children, a daughter Penny and a son, Scott. Penny
is a Director with USAA in San Antonio and is married to Adam Garcia.
Scott is employed with Sanden International, an engineering firm in Dallas.
He and Robin delighted us with the birth of our granddaughter, Sarah Elizabeth,
on January 2, 2000.
Gary and I have both been retired for about two years. Gary was with Texas
Instruments for 33 years and I was in the banking industry for 21 years.
We love retirement!!! We both volunteer at Medical Center of Plano and
feel we serve our community there. I love to garden (flowers and tomatoes)
and plan in the fall to join a Plano Garden Club. Hope they will have
some good ideas for me. I have killed quite a few plants! I love to shop
and have become interested in antiques lately. My other love is reading.